Aku tau semua parents nak anak-anak yang baik dan penuh dengan budi pekerti. Bukan senang tau, sebab anak-anak ni senang mengikut, kalau kita buat benda benda tu (either yang baik atau yang tak baik), cepat je dia mengikut. Sekarang ni aku tengah control my voice pitch, kena cakap lembut lembut je (susah sebab I'm not kind of that lemah lembut person) Nuh dah mengikut...cakap main jerit jerit je...dahla suara tu nyaring. Oh, penggunaan perkataan yang betul pun penting tau. Kena guna perkataan yang positif je, walaupun apa yang kita nak kata tu maksudnya negatif. Faham?
Aku terpanggil untuk search about moral values lepas tonton Desperate Housewives Season 6 episod berapa ntah, Selasa lepas kat TV8 on how this character named Eddie became a monster. Bukanla monster jadian ke hape, but attitude tu yang monster. Negative thoughts have been put in his memory since small. Like what Eddie's mother, named Barbara said;
I don't blame you on ruining my life
Sedih tak sedihla kan bila anak dengar mak dia cakap macam tuh...and also this one
The most regretful things I have done is giving birth to you
It is like OMG, how could you talk to your child like that. With all those thoughts and quotes by the mother, the son's self esteemed becoming lower and lower everyday. Kesian kan?!
Terpukul aku di situ, apa yang kita cakap, jangan ingat budak tak paham...After surfing, I found this, simple basic manner to teach your children. Check it out!
10 Basic Manners for Kids
1. Waiting their turn and not interrupting other people when they are speaking. No one can be heard if there are too many voices at once. Gently tell them to wait until someone is done speaking, and then ask their question. Be sure and give your child your full attention when you are done speaking so as to reinforce the positive behavior of waiting his/her turn. While children are patiently waiting, hold their hand or put your arm around them to let them know you are aware of their presence.
2. No name calling. Even if it's in "fun," name calling hurts. Instead of labels, ask children to explain what the behavior is that bothers them.
3. Always greet someone when they come over to your house. Depending on your level of formality, you can teach your child to shake hands with adults who come over, but it's not necessary to shake hands with other children. However, your child should always say, "hello" or "hi" when someone visits so that the guest feels welcome.
4. Say, "Please" and "Thank you" often. It shows respect and appreciation. In addition, if they are thanked, then say, "You're welcome".
5. Clean up after yourself. Whether at home or at a friend's house, always pick up after yourself. It's their mess, so they need to clean it up. If children leave a mess, then remind them that they need to clean up before the next activity can begin, and stick to it.
6. Good sportsmanship. After playing a game (sports, cards, board game), no matter the outcome, be pleasant. If your child wins, tell him/her to not gloat or show off, but to be kind. If they lose, don't sulk or get mad, but be a good sport and tell the other child(ren) "good game" or speak well of them.
7. Take compliments courteously. If someone praises your children, teach them to be gracious and say, "thank you" and avoid putting themselves down or pointing out flaws.
8. Opening doors for others. When going into buildings, allow elders to go first and open the door for them. When preceding others into a building, don't let the door slam in the face of those behind, but hold the door until the person behind can grab it. Also teach your children that if someone holds the door for them, then remember to say "thank you."
9. Exiting/Entering etiquette. Elevators: allow those in the elevator to exit first before entering the elevator. Same with buildings or rooms - if someone is exiting the building or room through the same door you are entering, let them exit first.
10. Respect differences. When people do things differently from your family because of diversity in culture, race, or religion, then teach your child respect. Point out how interesting it is or how different families do different things. Families have their own traditions or rituals, and it is important and has meaning for that family.
Senang kan? Ha...buat, jangan tak buat.
No is a no word to children